Dress by Modern Trousseau
This month I sat down with Modern Trousseau to talk about tips for choosing your wedding dress! At Modern Trousseau they have truly seen it all. They are known for their hand crafted and unique dresses that offer the highest level of quality and personalization. All the way from traditional ivory gowns to red wedding dresses with dragons on it! The idea to create custom dresses started when they had people would call saying that they like the top of one of the dresses and the bottom of the other. So they adapted and started custom designing dresses and even pulling multiple dresses together to create one!
As I sat down with their dress designer, Callie Tein, she shared the things she has learned to help her brides out when choosing/designing the perfect wedding dress. Choosing a dress is personal! It is how you are going to look on your wedding day and it says a lot about you as a person and your style. With all of that being said, I can’t wait to dive into this blog to have you feeling confident and ready to take on picking out your perfect dress! Here are some questions that I asked Callie in our meeting about tips for choosing your wedding dress!
How Should I Prepare For My Wedding Dress Appointment?
1.) Make a Pinterest board. Before your appointment, go ahead and add some inspirational ideas to your board. Try not to become super locked in on one dress but use it as inspiration for the mood that you are going for. This way you have already started to begin the idea/thought process.
2.) Try to have your venue booked. It can be helpful to have the venue picked out already, although it is definitely not a necessity. Once you have venue you can get a feel for how the day is going to unfold. However, some people prefer to have it all about the dress and then pick the venue based on their dress. The dress is what sets the mood. If you have a full beaded ball gown, the beach may not be the right place to get married. By booking your venue early, it will help you choose all of your other details. The dress that the bride picks is the flavoring for the wedding, so it should to be done early.
What Should I Bring To My Wedding Dress Appointment?
1.) Neutral colored undergarments. This is the best way to go, as bright colors or even white can sometimes create a great contrast against the skin and stand out under the dress. Try to find skin colored/neutral undergarments that are the closest to what you will be wearing on your actual wedding day. For instance, strapless bras are good to come with so you don’t have to keep tucking in the straps. This way you can get the full idea of what you will look like on your wedding day, and feel the most confident while trying on dresses. It is also important to always wear undergarments!! It is actually against health and safety regulations to come without!
2.) An open mind. This is one of the main tips for choosing your wedding dress! Try on different things, even if they may be out of your comfort zone. So try on a couple of things that you don’t think you will like just to see how you really feel in it. You will know in the first 5 seconds if you like it or not. Some may truly surprise you! Also never look at a dress and say “oh, thats gorgeous, I could never wear it”, that’s not true! This is your day! Don’t be afraid to experiment and have some fun with it.
3.) Someone you trust. This doesn’t even have to be a family member, although it definitely can be! You can always bring more/different people for your second appointment, but for the first appointment, try to stick with 1-2 people that you really trust to give you an honest opinion. Having too many people can often bring too many opinions that can easily and quickly overwhelm you. Make sure to choose someone who is not going to let their taste get in the way of what you really want! Bring someone who will be there for you and not for themselves.
In summary: open mind, someone you trust, neutral colored garments. Really, this is just a good life motto to get you through! If it can get you through life, it can certainly get you through a bridal appointment!
What Is The Timeline I Should Follow For Choosing My Wedding Dress?
1.) Look for your dress about a year before the wedding. Dresses take time to construct and you don’t want to rush the process. Women are busy in today’s day in age, so its good to start the process early. Callie referred to the quote: “Luck favors the prepared”, and that definitely holds up in the wedding industry too! You don’t want to get yourself in a situation, or feel rushed to pick out a dress at an appointment just because of an approaching deadline. These things take time, especially if your wedding is during a busy month since many other brides are getting married as well.
2.) Have a nips and tucks appointment 2-3 weeks before the wedding. Some companies like Modern Trousseau have to order their fabrics from different countries, and then construct the dress. So this can be a lengthy process sometimes. Many dress stores like to have the dress in 4-5 months before the wedding, so this gives only about 7 months to actually get the dress chosen, ordered, designed, created and make sure that it is to your liking. Then the dress has to go through alterations! Even if the dress is a very close fit or custom designed, there are still nips and tucks. Brides often lose weight right before the wedding, so Modern Trousseau recommends a final appointment 2-3 weeks before the wedding to make sure the nips and tucks are good.
What To Remember When Trying On Dresses
The photos you see on Pinterest are usually of models wearing the dresses. It is important to remember that there are so many different body types and to be cautious with getting caught up in comparing yourself to the model on social media. A lot of time the dresses won’t look the same on, because we all have different bodies. Take the pressure off of yourself and find a dress that makes you feel beautiful and comfortable! Don’t let yourself get hooked on the fantasy of an unrealistic expectation on social media to the point where you can’t appreciate yourself and your body. No two bodies are exactly the same, most bodies aren’t even symmetrical.
Women are known for putting too much pressure on ourselves. Even models usually always have their own insecurities as well! We often become obsessive over things that we consider to be a flaw that no one else actually sees as a flaw! No part of your body is a flaw. When trying on your wedding dress, you want to feel the best version of yourself. Yet you can only feel the best version of yourself when you feel confident. So it is important to feel super comfortable in what you are wearing. To the point that your dress is like a second skin.
Trying on a dress is almost not about the body as much as it is about the mind and what is going to make you happy! Self image is one of the hardest things to change because we feel that we have to fit into a certain mold or category, and if we are not fitting into this exact perfect dress or the highest heels, then we are not attractive.
Forget that you are even wearing a dress and just enjoy your day and have fun! You don’t want to worry all day about pulling up your dress or wondering how people see in you in the dress or if you are pulling it off. You want to find a dress that makes you comfortable enough in your own skin to feel beautiful and just enjoy your day! So take the pressure off and don’t compare yourself to what you see on social media. Find what makes you feel like the beautiful queen you are and own it!!
Modern Trousseau’s #1 Piece Of Advice For Choosing Your Wedding Dress
Take a deep breath and relax. It is all going to work out! The stress levels for brides have been through the roof right now in the middle of a pandemic. So think carefully about how to make it all happen, without it being stressful. Planning a wedding and picking out a dress should be enjoyable! Wait until you are comfortable and ready to go out and look for dresses, and then follow all of the tips for choosing your wedding dress that we went over! Remember…open mind, someone you trust, neutral colored garments! You got it!